Counselling for low self-esteem
Self-esteem refers to how we judge ourselves. If you have a healthy self-esteem you typically feel good about yourself and your achievements and think that you are a worthwhile person. If you have low self-esteem you tend to find fault in what you do and feel not good enough.
We all have probably come across people who constantly berate themselves, refuse to accept compliments, praise others achievements at the expense of their own, change their opinions based on those around them, and seem to agree to everything you ask of them.
We all hold beliefs about ourselves, others and the world. Early experiences from parents, other caregivers, teachers, and peers help form our beliefs about ourselves, as these messages were repeated by people important to us.
For example if the majority of the feedback you have received over your life is positive, and you have lived in a family and culture that support and value your needs and differences, you are more likely grow up believing that you matter, and that you have something to contribute to society. Conversely if you were criticized, told off, or devalued, you might internalize these messages and start believing there is something fundamentally wrong with you.
As a result of your experiences you relate to yourself with what psychologists call “self talk”. This is the voice inside your head (your thoughts) that often comments on what you do. Cognitive behavioural strategies and mindfulness have been shown to be very effective against low self-esteem.
We look forward to working with you on changing it – having more confidence and happiness in your life.